Some people are gay – please get over it!

I don’t agree with many things that emanate from the mouth of London’s present Mayor, Boris Johnson. I suspect him of being dangerously, perhaps ruthlessly ambitious, out of touch with the lives of ordinary people (whoever and whatever they are) and too enamoured of his own cloak of faux-naive buffoonery he dons so readily  in public. I do however agree with one thing – the pulling by him of the adverts issued by Core Issues Trust (“…a non-profit Christian initiative seeking to support men and women with homosexual issues who voluntarily seek change in sexual preference and expression…” – so says its website) and which were booked to appear for two weeks on the sides of many of London’s buses. “Not gay! Ex-gay, post-gay. And proud!”

For those not in touch with the goings-on in this city, these adverts, backed by Anglican Mainstream, were intended as a response to Stonewall’s recent ads – also on bus sides – saying “Some people are gay. Get over it!” The latter ad is self-explanatory. The former a little less so. It refers to claims – by that same group amongst others – that gayness is a successfully treatable issue!

I wonder why such people are so exercised by something which has nothing whatever to do with them. Some of them say their justification is the bible which claims homosexuality to be a sin. I’m not Bible-savvy enough to know about that. But I do know you could cite the Bible in justification for any number of what are now regarded as sins, crimes, whatever. But as the prophet of their religion is one Jesus Christ who, as far as I’m aware, made no such pronouncement about gayness, I’m not inclined to take their claim of Biblical justification very seriously. And we’ve all, in any case, been delighted many times in our school days and since, by the delicious irony that parts of the Bible appear at least to directly contradict others. It just depends on your point of view.

People are people. We are all who we are. Provided other people are not in any way harming you, or impinging on your right to exist in whatever fashion appeals to you, why does it matter to you how they, in turn, live their lives? And if, in any case, you feel that in so doing they’re offending God, don’t you think God can probably take care of that himself without your input?

Sexual relations between people of like gender are neither legitimate nor illegitimate, right nor wrong, moral nor immoral. It is simply the way it is. We are all our own selves, and made that way, or made in such a manner as to develop that way. And the fact that for the vast majority there is but one way of reaching out with another for a few moments’ relief from the tyranny of self and a glimpse of Home should not blind anybody to the fact that others, with others, may reach out differently. And if, in their union, there is tenderness, if there is in it love, care and affection does that not contribute to the wholeness of us all?


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3 Responses to Some people are gay – please get over it!

  1. Dean says:

    Hear hear – or is it here here!!!
    well put Jeff as always

  2. I completely agree, adult’s sexual preferences is an entirely private matter, of no concern to anyone other than themselves.
    Thank god that we have moved on from the time when that great whit and writer, Oscar Wilde was imprisoned merely for being a practicing homosexual at a time when it was illegal to be gay.
    Houseman (himself gay but very circumspect about how he manifested it) wrote movingly about the treatment of Wilde in his poem, “oh who is that young sinner”. The phrase “the colour of his hair” refers to Wilde’s homosexuality which Houseman considers to be natural in that he (Wilde) was created gay by god or nature

    “Oh who is that young sinner with the handcuffs on his wrists?
    And what has he been after that they groan and shake their fists?
    And wherefore is he wearing such a conscience-stricken air?
    Oh they’re taking him to prison for the colour of his hair.
    ‘Tis a shame to human nature, such a head of hair as his;
    In the good old time ’twas hanging for the colour that it is;
    Though hanging isn’t bad enough and flaying would be fair
    For the nameless and abominable colour of his hair.
    Oh a deal of pains he’s taken and a pretty price he’s paid
    To hide his poll or dye it of a mentionable shade;
    But they’ve pulled the beggar’s hat off for the world to see and stare,
    And they’re haling him to justice for the colour of his hair.
    Now ’tis oakum for his fingers and the treadmill for his feet
    And the quarry-gang on Portland in the cold and in the heat,
    And between his spells of labour in the time he has to spare
    He can curse the God that made him for the colour of his hair.”

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